I used to talk about how strong I would be. I used to sit back in my drunken haze, smoking cigarettes and lazily dreaming about how “in-shape” i was going to be. My friends all knew I had the potential and urged me to lift, run, climb, fight, whatever daydream I was talking about at that moment. It was all just talk. Part of me knew it but there I was, running my mouth about what was going to come but nothing ever happened.
This dragged on for years, I wasted my life for too long in college. I would say that i regret the time I wasted but I don’t. It was a learning experience. I learned what it felt like to be a mess. I real mess. I learned what it felt like to be down and out. I felt sorry, weak, fat, and I knew what it felt like to want to change it all. I had the right intentions, I wanted to change. I could see and feel this struggle within me, my youthful, strong, bright eyed and powerful self had been beaten. My true self, the real Scott was being held captive by this whiskey drinking, smoke belching, taco bell eating monster and could not escape. Every day that passed without action just my inner safe weaker, and no matter how much a TALKED about it… nothing changed.
I don’t remember the catalyzing moment. Somewhere after I hit bottom and stopped drinking my head cleared and I looked at those around me with my eyes open and mouth shut. I looked at my friends, my frat brothers, my family and even those I didn’t like but secretly admired and tried to see what I was missing. One day I had this thought and plainly said to myself “just shut the F.*#K up and do it.” I looked at myself in the mirror and was not happy with what i saw. Even though I had taken great steps to clean up and heal myself I wasn’t where I wanted to be. I was not content. I knew that the only way i would get myself back was to just “shut the F up and do it.”
I said that to myself everyday. It became my mantra. Shut the F up and do it. It didn’t stick at first and it wasn’t until I actually put it into practice that i realized how long I’d been talking instead of doing. It wasn’t just in the world of exercise either. I have had a long history of doing poorly in school, cleaning my room, eating right, fixing bad habits and many other things that just require pure action and a complete absence of words. It took some time but things started to shape up. I finally did the things I’d said I would. I began to live up to my word. I always felt I was a man of my word but when all you do is talk you just can’t back it up.
I started riding my bike to school. I put a pullup bar in my doorway, i bought a huge weight vest and just became a DOER. My grades improved, my room was clean, i lost weight, and most importantly I kept my mouth shut.
I wish i could say that it was a permanent change but it wasn’t. I had my ups and downs, big ones. I will always have the ups and the downs, it’s just life and I’m human. I’ve had broken bones, suffered heartache, endured pain, seen incredible tragedy, lost friends and loved ones. But I know that letting any of it get to me will only drag me down. And it takes less time to get down than it ever take will ever take to get back up. Pulling yourself together and getting back up takes time and patience. It’s like growing crops. You put in the time, till the soil, plant the seeds, water, fertilize, and protect it all as it grows. If you neglect it, turn your head and let your attention slip at the wrong time….All can suddenly be lost.
If you reap your harvest yet you let it sit too long without proper steps to preserve it…it will spoil. Forget to water and it all dries up. Feed it the wrong stuff and you are left with small fruit. You can sit there and talk about what you want to happen but nothing’s going to F’n grow. Diligence, persistence and faith will yield the bounty.
Just shut the F up and do it.
I decided to write this because a client of mine keep talking about changing his diet. When we first started working he did change it and lost a good amount of weight. He got in a groove, felt some comfort and slipped a little. Yeah I yelled at him a bit but all in all he and I know both know he’s going to do what he wants to do. He kept talking about it though, “I’m going to change it…..Yeah I know I’ll get my ass in gear…I’ll change it soon…” Elbows and A##ho&eS i said. You just have to SHUT THE F UP AND DO IT.
Surround yourself with people who do the same.
Stop talking and get up! go on a walk! Pick up some weights. Write out some goals and talk AFTER the fact. Tell me about what you’ve DONE. Show me THE PROOF. Show me video, show me your workout log, dietary journal, hop on the scale, SHOW ME! Put your money where your mouth is and show me the proof. Roll with the punches and weather the storms, keep your eyes on the horizon and remember what YOU really want.
Then shut the fuck up and do it.